Devastated Husband; Need Advice...Part 2

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I feel like I am at my breaking point, but then I realize its only been 4 months. Not a good day today. DB Coach made me feel really good yesterday about where I am in this process and told me all the positives of how much W and I talk, and how she complains about being lonely etc etc.

But you know what? When does the WAW actually start to care about my feelings. That I am stressed beyond belief but who do I talk to about it? W still leans on me to get rid of her stresses, but when I try and talk to her about my stresses, she says "well talk about it in a couple days." W still leans on me for $. So again, I am helping my W emotionally and financially and it makes ZERO sense. She's leaving to go to this internship in Maryland next Saturday, so our financial agreement was still, as long as you are not in OM's apartment, I will honor the Army's policy of Spousal Support. And I am ok with that for now, but when does she stop taking me for granted...DB Coach seems to say I am in a good place. I feel the opposite right now. I feel like I am giving my W everything she needs and I am helping her on this "find herself" adventure. Why should I provide everything, financially & emotionally, when I didnt choose this?

Her parents are not helping in anyway. They are not asking her, so...W, what are you doing, going to this internship right now and not working and not going to school and still treating H like [censored]. Why are you expecting him to do this for you? All I want, is to just not be used and abused, emotionally and financially. I don't think I should be as available to her in both areas, but DB Coach seems to think I am in a good spot. I disagree sometimes. I am supportive of her going to this internship, because I do think it will help her find herself, MAYBE. But W is already talking about quitting it. She just said, well if i don't like it in a couple weeks I'll just stop and quit. ...REALLY? YOU HAVENT EVEN STARTED.

I guess, bottom line, her finding herself is going to take a long, LONG time. And I don't know if I am making the right decisions to help bring her back into the M. I am being a friend, but even friends don't treat each other this way.