I think i'm going to have to watch that NVC stuff if only for the puppet passive aggressive giraffe.
There is a plus side to H seeing you though and thats that he saw you out volunteering. you were doing good work at something he paid (?) to be at. It shows you moving on and getting on with your life and certainly adds to your mystery.
I like your myers briggs analysis - its the sort of thing i think can really help (I'm an E/INTJ by the way) understand the dynamics
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress