I appreciate your insight. Have you read my entire story? Do you know how terrible my H was while he was gone and he chose to come back?
It's hard to have patience with someone that chose to come back and swore up and down he was making changes and then just stopped. Now he can't even wake up to take our boys to school.
Yes he's stressed and depressed. That seems to be the only words he can say lately.
I'm just curious , and genuinely asking, how does it make me controlling to want a H to be in a M that he came back to ? Or to even treat me with enough respect to know which job he's at when he comes strolling in at 8pm every night without a text or a call all day? Personally - if I werecontrolling I would demand to know where he was, which job he was working at, take our kids to school, help with the kids at all. He picks up and does what he wants when he wants. He was gone all day yesterday- no clue where he was and I didn't bother to call or ask. The boys and I spent the day together.
So yes maybe I am controlling on wanting to be treated with respect or to either have a man in the house that treats me with the respect a spouse deserves not just someone that's my roommate and living here because he can't afford to leave.
I still have a lot of work to do on myself.
The money thing has been months as discussed. Al I supposedto say nothing forever? Until he feels *okay* enough to talk about it. I'm here just as much as he is. So he gets to drag us through crap, put on his best suit for a few months and then go back to the same stuff and I'm supposed to just deal? I can be patient if I'm treated with respect ... But to be treated no better than 2 ships passing by.
If he chooses to be out of love with me again, so be it. And you're right it is pretty repulsive to have someone try to get your attention that you don't want.
He cried, begged and pleaded. Making all empty promises. Now because he's having it rough because of the money choices he made during his A I'm supposed to suck it up?
Kudos to you guys who have the patience of saints. Maybe I'm not cut out for this. All I want is a little respect but if that's too much to ask right now then I am in the wrong place. It seems to me like it's time to let go again.
Thanks for your post Mozza
He wants nothing to do with me. Just because I post things here again does not mean this is all portrayed to H. I come here to vent about my true feelings because I can't betotally honest with him because of his stress.
Short of what I post here that I say to H. I am nice outgoing and cheerful towards him. I try to do nice things for him. I don't know what else he wants from me. He doesn't even know.
