W was cuddling with me last night on the bed. She was apologizing for all the things she's done to mess up our life. She asked me why I loved her. I told her my reasons. I asked her why she loved me. She said (among other things) because it was because I was where she belonged.
Well I can see how that answer could be a little less than satisfying. Just the other night she was saying she still loved OM and couldn't feel that way toward you. No wonder your emotions don't jump into high gear.
Starsky has a good script when a WAW is saying similar things, ILY, etc. "I really wish I could believe you".
IMO, it is not the right timing to be reassuring her now much you love her.......and certainly not asking how she loves you (considering she was just professing love for OM). She is still in WAW mode. You said you see her draw in when you pull back.
Is next week the big date with OM?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
