Devastated Husband; Need Advice...Part 2

[TLEE86]

Whats interesting about this is that it seems like in every relationship, there is someone that is the more, take charge/fixer/organizer type while the other is more submissive, for lack of a better word. I can definitely relate to both Toots and MCS on this one, as I have been the one to "help/fix" with the dog or help with the job, and it never allows them to do it on their own, to get that satisfaction that they accomplished something solely on their ability and not with our help.

My W said the same thing so many WAS said, "I'm doing this on my own, I don't want YOUR help, I will do this by myself." Yet....now when things are difficult, she needs me to help her, give her that guidance. There is a fine line between giving guidance and just telling her exactly what to do. I think this is what I should have been doing all along, helping her when she asks for it but doing it in a way that doesn't come off as controlling/I know better.
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Weird note, I texted W this morning because I saw something that reminded me of her and shed get a laugh out of it, and she just apologizes for not being very talkative yesterday (we went 1 day without texting/calling) because she went to visit her mom. Im confused why she feels the need to apologize to me...this is a reoccurring pattern. I don't want her to apologize, it makes her feel like she's doing something wrong when she really isn't. Strange.