MLC = my last chance

[123Gwen]

Maybe trying something new was not as futile as I thought. H called last night and he seemed to listen. He was depressed I could tell. Not sure what's going on but I was pleasant & said the same things about a separation agreement. I focused on the facts and kept the chit chat to a minimum. I told him as long as court was looming we would all be stressed. We discussed D16 and D19 and he said how much he missed them. I said that he needed to trust me and that his choices have created a situation that is unfair and hurtful but we must all carry on. I said I want to stop keeping score but if I have to pursue court then it is all about keeping score and he is forcing me to do that. H really seemed to listen to that point.

Yes it was a moment. H seemed depressed. I sense OW is not his BFF in the way he imagined. Real life is creeping in...grass is not greener in the desert.

Unfortunately H has never been one to reflect or communicate well. It was a shift but zero expectation it will last. I will carry on but it was a blessing to have a conversation.

Back to the "business" of life - Lois, good ideas but I am stuck with the payment until May. If I quit paying the loan it is my credit too and H would just reduce the amount he sends. I am trying to hold out so if this goes to court the judge will see amount he has been paying at least rule that amount continues on.

Thanks everyone for letting me get this all out. I never wanted to be a person who sued her H but I have no choice. it is just so difficult some days.