Just looked up HPD. Yep, I see the similarities in W. People would tell me W was "over-dramatic" and made big deals out of small things. Even now, she's taking interactions with me to an 11 on the scale, I've told people it's almost like she's 'acting' in how she displays how she feels.
Also, she never was satisfied about whatever plan she was involved in, it was always the next thing. This was a struggle in our M. She took any type of criticism really hard and was resentful of it, either lashing out or totally withdrawing. She used to be seductive with others beyond what was normally acceptable, but I thought that diminished over the years, until at BD she told me about multiple people over the last 15 years that she tried to 'seduce.' She left me for an OM that ended up not leaving his GF for my W. W told me this, and I think I see that the A was simply fun times for him with a friend, but W took this as a much deeper R than what it was.
I see that I nurtured this condition through our M until we had kids, then I see my patience in this decreased as I felt our focus should be in the kids not ourselves. The kids, being babies themselves also invariably took the attention away from W and that's where these symptoms started to run out of control.
I may seek some guidance from you on how to interact with W, I'm struggling with it because of some of these symptoms.
M:36 W:37 T: 15 M:11 S6 D5 BD: 8/10/14 IDLY: 8/12/14 S: 8/13/14 (she left, I stayed w/ kids) D Mentioned: 10/15/14 Confronted about OM: 10/15/14 EA: ~4/13 PA: ~10/13 She filed: 8/15 (not final)
