I thought everything was okay.....(Part 3)

[Sotto]

I think that's really good advice from V - thanks V! I hadn't thought of detachment in that way. It can kind of feel negative, that you are 'distancing' from your WAS. But it makes it more positive to think of yourself as 'attaching' to your own life.

You may not be consciously 'detaching,' but it will follow automatically as you 're-attach' to your own life - reconnecting with parts of you that may have been put to one side, due to the R. This way, because you get some satisfaction and more sense of yourself, the outcome of reconciliation doesn't seem quite so central to your life going forwards.