ME: 38 BF: 40 T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice) BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R. 10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW 12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies
Literally dont know what to say to that! I mean I know exactly What you mean, really, but what to say, nope nothing available
M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015
I went to the library after work today. I got all excited about it, realizing I could pick out lots of new material to read.
Then a stray thought crossed my mind about what BF would think about it. He was always telling me I wasn't extroverted enough and that I was a buzz-kill because I prefer reading and quiet time to the millions of projects and bouncing from place to place, or whatever someone like him has going on.
Then I wondered when it was okay to make someone feel guilty over who they are. Just because YOU don't like something or YOU prefer to be more busy and outgoing doesn't mean someone else liking it is wrong or they're broken.
I REFUSE to let that d-bag's criticisms of me make me feel guilty about the things I love.
ME: 38 BF: 40 T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice) BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R. 10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW 12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies
Don't let him. My h took over the things I loved and made it so even tho I felt I was good and did enjoy it he sucked all the fun out by Putting those negative tapes in my head.
Guess what the best news is? He is playing those tapes to the ow now, she is copping his crapola so don't feel bad he choose her.
Would you choose that crap all over again? I know I would not.
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
Yup little you enjoy the library you know what so do I, have dozens of real books here borrow from local and city libraries regularly as well as e books from amazon and hundreds more e books backed up on my server from the public domain such as project Gutenberg. Nothing wrong with loving the worlds reading brings or anything else you enjoy be it reading, gaming, cycling, writing bad fiction, playing music, drawing or bungie jumping in custard for that matter!
No one should feel guilty over who they are or what truly makes them happy and content.
Take it easy
Edz
M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015
Hi Little - fellow book lover here! I know what you mean about those little jibes from your BF. I love to watch period dramas - the BBC have done some fabulous ones. My H just wasn't into them - no problem. But I didn't like the way he made little digs about it.....I don't miss that. Make the most of enjoying things you love without worrying about what he may think.
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
Lots of books, endless books to read devour and disseminate.
If your ex wants to shrink his mind then he can shrink his testimonials. The sexist organ of the body is the brain and the ability to read and discuss expands the mind and spirit.
Your ex is shrivelling everything if he thinks this is not important.
Hideous thinking makes for hideous development of personality. I really hope your bf adjusts and starts to expand his mind, comes to his senses. You are growing dearest little.
Vanilla
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
Playing around on some dating websites. Kind of tempted to do the following:
"Looking for a man that's exactly like my ex, with all the same hobbies and interests, minus all shitty cheating parts."
Dating blows.
ME: 38 BF: 40 T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice) BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R. 10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW 12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies
The only ones remotely looking I'm finding no or little interest in. The ones I looked at bolted, fast and far!
The rhc, for an example been d a year or more takes one year to do the d. Nearly a year since his xw moved in with her toy boy. Actually more than a year.
He freaked when I said hey let's be friends and have coffee. Meh, meh!
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
I don't know. I don't think I'm ready to date again, but at the same time I feel like if I let myself I'd wait around for BF to pull his head out of his ass forever. I don't want to be that person.
It's not that I'm lonely, it's that I miss BF. And there's no remedy for that.
Le sigh.
ME: 38 BF: 40 T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice) BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R. 10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW 12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies
