T0324 continued part 4

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T0,

I don't know how to advise you on that. When I read it - I'll be honest - all I "heard" was more talk and pressure and stress about money and finances ... soon after H has expressed to you that he's under A LOT of financial pressure (which is the reason he gave for deciding to go back to work for XOW's dad).

At the same time, that's no small chuck of change, and your H *should* be willing to man-up, put his stress behind him and do the right thing by you and your family. (Especially because - is it just me, or ... - wouldn't that money help with the financial stress?)

Wait. Is that money part of the fund he's not allowed to touch for his A-accumulated debt? If so, maybe he's not as motivated to go after it as you are. Not saying that's right. Just saying maybe it IS ...

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25, thank you.

And it wasn't a picnic for my kids either. I had no idea that by not bringing them along the ride, they'd feel left out. THEY didn't see the Retrovaille retreat, and THEY didn't hear h's regrets, which were profound.

This has also been my experience for my older girls. They are polite to H (their stepdad, which makes it even MORE tense and weird), and they appreciate his offerings to our family. But they are still very bitter and felt (and sometimes feel) "left out" of the process. It's a very hard tightrope for everyone to walk.