Do I tell him all I know?

[BrightFuture]

Sonas, read you post on Linda’s thread. Just catching up on your story. I see lots of similarities with my M and my GF’s story, in different ways thought.

My H always was very social and wanted to go out for drinks. When we traveled, he wanted to visit every local bar. I was with him, but he could also go on his own and meet people and have a conversation. The dynamics between you and your H sounds very similar to what I had in my M after a few years into the M. I would say I was also emotionally immature and didn’t know how to resolve the conflicts except to confront him, blame him, cry and yell. He always tried to avoid any conflict. I need to say that it was not like that at the beginning of our M. We used to be able to talk to each other honestly and openly. After some years of not addressed needs and some resentment on both sides, we started to have difficulties in communication.

My H told me all these words, that he loved me but was not in love with me, that we grew apart, that we had nothing in common (WHAT?!!!), that I didn’t like to things he liked to do, etc.

There is another similarity between us. I’m also a very good snoop. I was thinking about the fake profile on the dating site and I would have done the same as you did. But, H never activated his profile. I guess he set it up when he was drunk or desperate, or whatever. I don’t think he ever messages anyone, because he would have to pay for the access, and he didn’t.

I have a lot to say about similarities of your sitch with my GF’s (who is russian), like I mentioned, in a different way. I will come back to post my thoughts on this.