Plus he likes H. .. The first time he met him he said he believes H has struggled with depression and was just in a bad environment and didn't know how to cope with it and made poor choices- and he didn't say it in a way that he was excusing his behavior he was just wanting me to know he thinks H is a good person down under his mistakes. He said he's been doing his for 30 years and would tell me (this was during IC) if he felt I should run for the hills.
One of my friends used to see him - he told her after a few sessions to run for the hills. So glad she did! She is now happily married to a great guy and her ex is still cheating on every GF he has.
I don't know if you remember (I wouldnt expect you to) but the first MC we went to was terrible! My C wanted to call her himself. In our first MARRIAGE counseling session. She said it seems you two have grown apart instead of together. If divorce is what one of you wants I can help you get there. That's verbatim what she said. H started going to see her alone and that was that.
