I know everyone has said do nothing so I'm trying to find that balance. As many of you can see it's really not my personality to be walked over. With the changes I've made I've tried to approach things differently than I have in the past. For ex: coming home the other night and saying nothing
But he needs to know that I am not going to be treated like this for ever. It's time to shape up. I am trying to be compassionate and understanding to his feelings.... It's hard. I think I could be more understanding to the stress and depression if he was treating me with respect.
So in regards to me telling him I don't know how to help him and I would if he asked. I'm tryig to figure this out because I see what you're saying that I believe he knows he 'has' me and can treat me like crap and here I am still wanting to help him. But a HUGE gripe for him that be brought up over and over in Mc is that I said his debt was his debt his problems where his I didn't want to be apart of fixing things that he created during our S. Which his EXCUSE for taking care of things on his own (or lack there of) and not involving me because I told him in the beginning it was his sandbox. However we've had concersations since and he still uses the excuse of I said I didn't want a part of it.
The MC definitely called him on his stuff during C. Saying that I deserve him to be honest with me and I deserve him to be sleeping next to me every night with the phone off and on the nightstand. I deserve to be able to go through his phone and no it shouldn't be for ever but it's going to take time. He said if it's still going on a year from now then we have something to talk about.
