Check out this link; I found this post a long time ago, and it helped me a lot:

Pursuit and Distance

It was from the mlc forum - and mentions "mlc partner," or something like that - but "the dance" applies to anyone here.

M: 40 H: 44
Married 14 years
S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M
2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart
Piecing: April 2014