I was thinking about an incident that happened the other night. We were having an intense but somewhat productive R talk, not spew. She was crying, I was holding her, when she suddenly started talking about how she was in love with OM, and she couldn't feel that way about me.

I immediately moved away from her, and told her in as calm a tone as I could muster, that I'm not going to waste my time pursuing a woman who clearly doesn't want me. If that was truly how she felt, then I wanted her to let me go so I can build my own life. I'm not going to be there keeping her bed warm and holding her while she professes her love for someone else (I don't really consider it "love", but that was the language I used). No tears on my part, no self-pity, just "if that's reality, then let's recognize it and move on".

She immediately back tracked on a lot of her statements, started talking about good things about our relationship, and how she wanted to continue counseling. I should also mention that I got sexually attacked later that night.

As soon as I present the possibility of me moving on, she starts to cling.

Last edited by Rzrback; 01/17/15 04:59 PM.
Ex Rzrback
Me 43 Her 44
D11, D15
T21, M19
BD 9/9/2014
Piecing

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