Jim0987 #10 - getting ready for mk8

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Jim,

Sorry about the hasty post before - was out at dinner.

Look, I get it, it feels like a momentous occasion to you. Maybe it will be the last time you share a house together. But you don't know that right now. This is not the end, it's just the start of a different phase.

The night before my H left I tried to remain up beat, gave him a hug and said something along the lines of "no matter how this turns out, the end result will be better than where we're at now." Kind of implied we're on a bit of a journey. He thanked me and said it was a nice idea. He was clearly lost.

Next morning - the day he left - we had very little exchange. I'll never forget that he came over, said he knows this is silly, but he's looking for the nose hair clippers and did I know where they are. I took that as an indicator of where his head was at on what felt to me to be the most momentous day of my life. I left the house before he did. We're still in contact 7 months later.

All this is to say, I don't think you should say anything that refers to it as The End, nice knowing ya, etc. Try to factor in her feelings - she feels like she has to get outta there. Acknowledge that she has to do it, you wish things were different, but for now you know this is how it has to be. Well, that's how I handled it anyway.

Big hugs to you today. I know it is hard.

It is not The End.