Are you snooping? If yes what are your reasons for that? (Not an expert on this but someone asked me the same question in my stitch and its a legitimate question)
You can snoop to determine what you are up against and her state of mind in these events. How she is potraying you outside of your four walls. Many cheater will potray the betrayed in a horrible light. You won't know unless you check.
Also you can determine the games she's running and the things she is attracted to.
