The incident with your kids and her reaction is a step into the right direction but don't read any into this. But good job how you handled it. It's hard to manage a situation like this without make her feel guilt of some sort and be obvious about it.
The odd detachment I feel sometimes too is a weird feeling. It's scary but good at the same time. Hard to describe..
Me 32 (German) Wife 28 T 3yrs M 2yrs Moved to US for W No kids BD 6/2014 In house separation Confirmed EA 1/2015 (ongoing since BD) OM not ready Real D talk started 1/27/15