Originally Posted By: vasapro
HP, I have often times felt that, hey, I'm changing and doing all this, why isn't she pursuing me?

Do you have those thoughts as well?


Hey vasapro. Honestly... no.

I have a lot to change. Most importantly... how to make my own everlasting joy living in this cold city far far from a Caribbean beach.

And my W has been gradually getting resentful about my unhappiness for 7 years.

It's going to take more than standing up to her everyday, taking care of my son, looking fit and sexy, and acting "as if" I'm moving on.

I'll need to vibrate with happiness, motivation, and purpose. I'll need to have the warm Caribbean sun shinning from within me no matter where I am or how cold the weather. I'll need to dance and smile and mean it.

I'm not there yet but I will get there soon enough.

And when I get there... it won't matter if she pursues me or not.

Take care vasapro.


Me: 44
W: 45
S: 11
Married: 15
Together: 18
BD: 9/29/2014
OM discovered: 10/16/2014
I left her behind: 12/14/2014