I haven't directed acknowledged all of the specific things that I now know were what pushed her away. I very clearly see it all, where it went wrong and what I was doing that was specifically pushing her away. Though I have apologized multiple times and have admitted I was a terrible husband for a while and abandoned her.
Do you think calling out the specifics would be a good thing to do? Maybe it would mean a lot and show her I know exactly what was going wrong and so that she could start to feel confident that I wouldn't let them happen again.
Sorry for the confusion on my end, but are you saying that you approached him with a grand romantic gesture? And it helped? I want to do this so badly to my W. I feel that it will make or break everything. I just don't know. I feel like if I did that I would be approaching her from a place of desperation or neediness, but out of a place of deep love and affection for her. I just want to show and embrace her with the love I have for her.
I do see where pushing my feelings though is just not working. Even when I reach out to say hi and that I hope she had a good day, with a little ":)" in there haha, I get no response. I can imagine if I smother her with love it will just probably push her away. But, IDK!!!
She's contacted me about a couple of seemingly insignificant things, we split bank accounts and she had a couple checks that were still depositing in them and wanted to check if the money was in there. She did this just yesterday, when clearly the money was not depositing in my account anymore. I'm questioning if this was an attempt to put her foot in the door to start talking. But then we texted back and forth about that for a couple texts, and then I asked if she would want to meet up to take the dog to the part, and she said she feels like that wouldn't be a good idea....Confusing day. I didn't text back.
Also, her father texted me yesterday saying that she sought out the counsel of a pastor, which I feel that could only be a good thing for us. Pastors marry and advise couples to reconcile, I've never heard of them siding with divorce. Though I'm not sure where her father got this information from. I'm guessing my W directly, but I didn't want to be too nosey and ask.
One day at a time is the best course of action. The days are flying by, but the moments that make them up seem to last forever...
