Jack - my biggest issue is that he is making me feel like the bad guy. He should still be trying to earn my trust but instead its my fault.
Are you the bad guy?
I seriously doubt it. Did you have faults that contributed to the bad marriage, I'd bet money on it. BUT...
He is the guy who had an affair and he is making you out to be the bad guy...
As a guy, and not always a nice guy, that is some shady stuff, and it would worry me.
Are you able to talk with him about this and let him know how you feel, that you are not the bad guy and that crap needs to stop.
You every hear the best defense is a good offense? Making you the bad guy puts you off your feet...it destabilizes you, it unbalances you. Its a crappy trick, one that he needs to stop.
How he stops is really up to you on how you approach it. I will say that allowing it to continue might not be in your best interests.
As long as you can bear the results change is good if you can no longer handle the status quo.
Do things need to change right now?
And now I will leave you to your regular posters.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
