Just read up on your last few posts in this thread. I see that you are experiencing a lot of fear on deciding what path to take.
You have been given some great advice. Wonka posted some info from MWD. That is exactly what shifted things in my situation. I got tired of living in limbo, and pushed the D forward. The thing is, you have to be genuinely prepared to be D. To me, that was a better option than living in limbo.
Full disclosure, I did date and had the opportunity to see what life would look like with a different person. Those were the possibilities that were better than limbo.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa