Also, I stood/DB'ed for a long time because I chose to, for the kids, and myself, and, yes, to give stbxw time and space to figure herself out.
I wanted to be sure that when *I* looked back years from now, that I would have no regrets, no "what if I had tried X" thoughts, that I knew deep in my soul that I had done everything I could. And my sons would also know that.
That Dad didn't cut and run when it got tough. He stood with class, honor and dignity for his M, until he stood for himself.
Stbxw is in a more stable state to head out on her own successfully. That one one of my goals.
My internal drives of CHD and duty are satisfied.
I've become a man only a fool would leave (well, mostly).
I had to get there on my own and in my own time, and manner, like everyone, though several of my friends got rather frustrated with my stubbornness.
Be true to yourself.
Last edited by TSquared2; 01/16/1510:16 PM.
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
