You have seen a L (yay) and your answers were great. You are doing well.
IF you stay the course (doing the DB work and boundaries) you have a chance at turning things around if you are also doing your 180s.
Your wife won't return to a marriage she left, unless she believes the marriage can be better/different than before.
From your own words, you more or less feel the same way. So do your work and change what you can/want to, in yourself.
So that you demonstrate that the marriage would be different/better/ b/c you are better/different than before.
Later, you can address what you need FROM her, b/c now is not the time.
Why do I say ^^ that? Why do I suggest you wait to let her know what SHE would need to do to reconcile? B/c you are here trying to save your marriage, she's not.
Give this TIME. Consistent change on your part + sufficient time = change she can believe in.
Keep up the great work. Be the best dad you can be, & stay strong and upbeat.
You really will be more than alright, no matter your wife says/does.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
