morning Deb - I believe that from what C can tell I have dropped the rope - but that does not mean that I don't think about her and continue to hope for the best (altho I am expecting the worst)
Hi all - I just got an IM from C - Asked me how Cookie and I were doing. Chitchatted some and said she heard I got a big hug from niece. then talked about her cable bill and my dish bill. Then kinda out of the blue she said "If you don't have plans Friday night, do you want to get together a little bit, maybe dinner".
So she initiated contact after her long weekend w/ OG and asked me to dinner. I hope it is not to give me bad news but then that would be ASSuming. She then later sent an IM that she got the B-Day card for Big B.
Well - now I have to wait til Friday night to see what's up. Til then - I could use all the prayers for C and I, that I can get.
I am not seeing it as a bad thing either - just that when you hope for the best but expect the worst I have to be prepared for the worst - then if the worst does not happen, anything else that happens will be better.
several things that do make me think it is not a bad thing. 1. she brought up me getting a big hug from a special little girl- if she was going to drop bomb #3 then I doubt she would bring up niece knowing that she would be making it harder for me to see her. 2. she asked me to come over on Friday night, if it was for bomb#3 I would think she would want the Friday night for OG. 3. plus some other minor things too. Of course maybe I should act as if - that she will say she has thought over what she did and is very sorry and now wants to work on us.
I am in good spirits for Friday night but want it to get here soon.
PS - I also have a date with Niece and nephew for this Sunday afternoon for the burger king playground. When I talked with SIL about picking them up she was very friendly and we chit chatted some - If she knew about any bad news comming my way (and if it was I am sure she would know) then I think she would be a lot more reserved in her conversation.
Why don't you do a 180? Instead of stinking thinking, why not "act as if" C wants to say that she wants to be friends again and see what happens from there!
I don't want you going there giving her bad vibs, now. Be positive! I don't think you are going to hear the worse! LOL
1. I have a dinner date w/ C tonight - I feel that it will be good. I think she is testing the waters and I need to make sure they feel warm and inviting she she will want to keep swimming.
Well I just had an IM from C about tonight - said she thought we would just stay at her place and let the dogs play - she bought a couple of steaks.
I was not planning on taking Cookie but if I take her then I will not have a reason to get home tonight. I wonder if she is planning on me staying over?????
I do work tomorrow so I will update in the late am.
Report on my Friday night dinner date w/ C - she was wearing a pants/blouse outfit that showed more cleavage than she usually shows and I believe she noticed me notice that some even though it was not mentioned.
When I got there we let Cookie and big B play together. Even tho both are Chihuahuas, it seems that Big B is over twice the size of Cookie. We then went in and C stated cooking and I tried to set up the tv satellite receiver but I think that a wind storm about 2 weeks ago moved the dish and it will have to be re-aimed. I opened a bottle of wine that we had bought over a year ago when we were on a trip to Florida and shared a glass. She said it was appropriate that we drink it together since we bought it together. While she was finishing with getting dinner ready I was squatted down in the kitchen and leaning back against the cabinets playing with Cookie, C came over and gently patted my shoulder while telling me how cute Cookie was. By then she had dinner ready and I then noticed that she had set out the salads on the dinning room table and dimmed the lights and lit two candles.
We had a very pleasant dinner and good conversation (she told me two risque jokes) and also mentioned that she has noticed that her “single” status had increased her tax withholdings and she does not have as much money as before. After Dinner we went to the living room and watched a pay per view movie (runaway jury). We did not snuggle or anything but only sat at each end of the couch but did have good conversation during the movie.
After the movie we went back into the kitchen and she said thanks for coming over and that she was aware that the relationship was very strained lately and just wanted us to have a good, fun evening. I agreed with her and tried to change the subject back to just fun things and after a few minutes the conversation did drift back to good chitchat.
During our talk, she mentioned that she had tried to cut Big B’s dog nails but that it seemed to hurt him and she said she would have to get my D to do it (my D use to work at a dog grooming place and has lots of experience with trimming dog nails) she also said she had gone to a flea market and found some audio books and thought that my mom might like them.
After some more chitchat and a lot of her hugging on Cookie and also talking about Cookie’s and Big B’s puppies - it was time to go and she gave me a nice hug - still not much of a kiss though. after we said our good byes and I was walking out through the garage, she opened the door again and said “Oh, I just wanted to let you know that you looked great tonight”.
All in all - it think it was a good night - not like some of our 24 to 36 hour dates of November but a good start to rebuilding a friendship. One that she initiated.
