"I did my best today to dodge many attempts by my W to keep tabs on me today."
I don't get why you're doing this. You shouldn't have to "dodge" anything. Just do what you want to do. You are right that you don't have control over your W, but you can continue to do what you want to do for you.
THIS^^^^...good stuff.
FWIW, I don't think she's doing ANY of this to get a "rise" out of you. I think she's planning on leaving, and my question for you is, have you seen a lawyer?
Seeing a lawyer can be very empowering and it does NOT mean you must "Do" something..."anything".
You need do nothing. But I'd sure want to know my rights before I let my angry or cheating spouse decide who gets what.
Is she assuming her "list" is something you are now consenting to, b/c hey, 'silence is consent"? (And Sometimes it looks like that to a judge). If you fear losing your temper, then write something down to her, maybe like
"W, I don't want a divorce, though I agree that our old marriage should die, in order for us rebuild a better m. Even so, I won't stand in your way if you want to leave. However, Just so you know, I don't think your 'want' list is fair to me or the kids"... Of course say this only iF you actually feel ^^that it's unfair, that is. Also, she's leaving you with the kids, correct?
If so, that is highly unusual. May I assume she knows SHE will need to pay some child support, to you?
My guess is, she doesn't know that. But a separation will actually show her things that no words can..
So no, all is not lost if she leaves. In some ways it'll be easier for you. Less tension for one. And later, your changes will be easier for her to notice b/c it's hard to see change when you interact on a daily basis.
Do you get what I'm saying?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
