To be clear, I haven't asked her to unfriend or block him, at least in the last couple of months. For her to take positive steps like that will require her to decide that it's important enough. She's not there yet.
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Still not a good idea to keep him on FB. The MC even said something about it last session. It'll be a decision W has to make, though.
Yes, that's true. It's also just as true that YOU get to make a decision, too, and that is: whether or not it works for you to remain in a marriage where your wife is still in contact with her OM.
Knowing that second part is what gives us the confidence to properly DB, and lose the overwhelming sense of powerlessness that grips us when we first get bomb-dropped.
