1) If you're looking for a definitive secret process...there isn't one. This is all trial and error, with the hope that the errors aren't serious enough to doom the process.
So the adage: Keep doing what works, is fundamental.
2) MY strength is with MLC, and I don't think your wife is in one. So my tactics are founded in a LONG game, nothing quick...and I don't recommend it if you don't have to...in fact I'm not sure I recommend it if you do have too. : )
For you I hope Starsky; Mr Bond and some others take you under their wing, you have some pretty good positives here that I think can be built on.
3) Please remember this though...everyone is unique here...we ALL have the same problems and we all make the same mistakes...over and over and over again and I can tell you right now we all know how your going to defend yourself when you make mistakes or go off the program. : ) But we are all unique in how we react or interact or have others(Spouse) interact with us. So if advice is not working even from a Vet, don't be afraid to tell them and to change it.
YOU are BOOTS on the ground, we are safe in the bunker drinking coffee giving you orders, you shouldn't wait for us to tell you to duck, right?
oh yeah and then this as a positive:
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learned patience;
LOL...no you haven't. Not yet. : )
So advice.
Can you enjoy what you have at the moment? Does something need to change, or can this last awhile longer before you change it up and see it it gets better or worse?
Changing it up will make it better or worse...it might stay the same, but unlikely. So you need to be able to accept the new outcome, a bad one will result in lost effort, she might not be ok with coming over and watching TV with you even if you go back to what you were doing before the change.
So I'll ask does it need to change right now?
about your negatives:
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oh yeah, AND WE'RE DIVORCED!
Yeah...so whats the worst that can happen? Will she divorce you again?
Sometimes you can only go up, and that's not bad actually.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
