Ambivalent, I feel sorry for his family and the women he has conned. He will continue to do this until he seeks help and finds out why he needs so much attention from other women. Sounds to me like he might have the NP disorder and requires a lot of kibbles for his ego from lots of women. Apparently he has no qualms about living with women and not paying his share of the bills, etc., and still out there lurking for his next conquest. What a piece of work!
I'm going to be perfectly honest w/you...I don't feel sorry for him one bit. I'm only sorry he wasn't caught sooner. He knew exactly what he was doing and he used women to his own advantage.
Of course he didn't want to hurt you. I wonder just how long this con game would have continued if he hadn't finally been caught and the situation brought to light. Run like the wind and do not have any more communication w/him. Be smart about this because he's not going to change and he's got that "smooth operator" way w/him. This isn't his first rodeo. He'll be back in the saddle searching for another conquest soon, if he hasn't already.
It's hard to say just how many others are out there that he's been conning. Yeah, he had an eye problem alright. Let's face it, he never thought all of you would put two and two together and actually meet up. He's a lucky man because there are some women who would have plotted some revenge on him that he would remember for a very long time.
Ambivalent, you don't need this type of person in your life. You deserve far, far better than "Dear John" or your h.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
