I'm not dealing with this but thought I would respond with a few thoughts and also give your thread a bump.
I think one of this challenges of giving actual divorce related advice is that all the states vary so widely.
I assume you're asking because your H is not ok with this?
I have to believe that given your daughter's age the courts would take her wishes into consideration.
That being said - do you think you could really achieve 30%? When I was a teenager, I would not have been enthusiastic about spending my entire summer vacation away from my friends. Heck,in High School I had a fully paid scholarship to be an exchange student in Switzerland and I almost didn't go because I didn't want to be away from my buddies for 8 weeks (happily I came to my senses.
When I read about issues that kids have with divorce, the disappointment that their time with their friends and their extracurricular activities are curtailed due to visitation is frequently cited.
Something to think about - if she comes with you - she may not be up for all that visiting.
