Copying that, from LITB, found on NAJ1964's thread. Seems relevant right now.

Originally Posted By: LITB
My divorce was signatures away from legally being over, and it got ugly. Somehow, with a lot of work and the grace of God, we worked things out.

There is so much in that "somehow"!

Wonka wrote this to lnlyship:

Originally Posted By: Wonka
I want to disabuse you of the notion that a reconciliation can happen in a month's time as you just lamented above in your post. I've been around the boards for a long time and the shortest reconciliation time was approximately 8 months. Even that is a rarity. Generally speaking, it typically occurs about 1 to 2 years of hoard core DBing. Mind you, it is not a guarantee.

I think I need to set 2015 free. I don't focus on a timeline anymore, but I keep thinking about what suggests she'll come back with the underlying assumptions that the signs should start to appear. I keep being disappointed and it makes DBing real hard because I can't be a "natural".

I'm going to spend the coming week thinking she's not coming back. Not really being pessimistic, just moved on. I want to experiment with that thought.


M39 D6 D3 (at S)
S 2014-09
D 2016-09

"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.