Take your time Jan. Be good to you right now. There's lots of time to look back and evaluate what you could have done differently. You will be amazed at the people who will step up and be there for you during this time...some you never imagined and others who you haven't even met yet! There are so many out there (and here!) who have lived your pain and will help you heal your wounds and at the same time continue to heal their own. No matter what crap society feeds you about how "this happens to everyone" as though it's a case of the flu, it's one of the most traumatic events that will ever happen to you. It's not just "one of those things"! So keep us posted!
