It occurs to me that, 3 months and THOUSANDS of posts in, 99% of your posts can still be boiled down to "How to I communicate with my wayward wife?"
I'm not saying it's easy, and I'm not saying it's not important -- it is, especially for S12's sake -- but somehow, you have GOT to start moving into other goals and actions.
I liken it to an athlete, who needs to commit certain basic moves to "muscle memory" so that he can play the game at a fast, high level without having to concentrate on the basic moves.
INTROSPECTION is a critical part of successful DBing, and of successful LIFE-living. You have to watch that it doesn't cross over into NAVEL-GAZING however, and the ol' "paralysis-by-analysis."
Not a criticism (as I know this is really difficult, especially with your wife's erratic behavior and game-playing) -- just an observation.
