Well, I would certainly take things at your pace and be absolutely sure that he has dug pretty deep and done some proper work here. Because your sitch with him does read a bit like a soap opera, and I presume you want to avoid any return to that for you and your kids.
Only you can decide what needs to happen for you to put the work into reconciling again, but the list would normally include:
Ending the R with OP and no further contact Really showing true remorse about what has happened and asking you 'what will it take for us to reconcile' Being willing to take part in MC - or whatever else yiu need to heal things.
In the DR infidelity chapter, there's a list of things that LBS need to overcome an A. Also, what is the state of play with OW - when is tax year? If that's months away, how is that going to work?
Give yourself some proper time to think about this - and really think long term about what will be best for your and your kids. Don't return to a 'soap opera' and be back here again in 9 months. It doesn't sound to me as though your H has really done 'the work' yet - sounds like he just got a bit fed up with OW and you look like the better option right now. It needs more than that IMO.
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
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