[BrightFuture]

Job, I’m not trying to change H’s perspective on life. I know that he would still maintain his happy façade. He is quite good at that, always been. I just want to have a little fun. I know he’s trying very hard to maintain this happy face. And I don’t think he can compete with me in having fun. He just simply doesn’t have money for it.

I would not invite him as a friend. I just know that there are some mutual friends or friends of friends, so he will mostly likely know I’m out there.

GB, thanks for stopping by. Exactly what H used to do, giving some grief to our mutual friend for marring “a youngster” (26 years younger woman who gave him a baby when he was 58.) And nevertheless, he tried to hook up with her cousin, who is 17 younger than H. Go figure.

I’m actually feeling like GGG used to feel about her sitch. Like doing some experiment with amoeba, LOL. And observing it from outside.

So, here we go… The recent update. I sent H an updated company file about a week ago and told him that if could pay the credit card expenses before the 15th, they could be deducted for tax purposes, according to our company accountant. He replied almost after one week (meaning, he didn’t open his e-mails) in a text message that if I would give him the loging and pw info for the CC account, he would get it done. I gave him this info a few month ago when he took over for paying the bills for HIS business expenses. Well, I guess he forgot and didn’t want to dig out that info. It is easier to ask me, right…

Anyway, I sent him the info and also told him that the car insurance is about to get renewed and they need the mileage info on all cars. I wrote to him that I need the mileage for his vehicles if he wants to maintain the current police. If not, let me know. There was a silence for a couple of days.

Today, I got a text from H telling me that he cannot send e-mails and in parenthesis this phrase “start laughing now”. He then informs me that the updated company file will be coming from our mutual friend’s (female) account. Then he gives me the mileages for the cars. And asks me to let him know what coverage he has before he pays his amount. Dah… He changed his coverage last year to liability only. There is nothing much he can do any further to lower the bills. I guess he forgot about it.

Then he sent me another text telling me about money transfer for the condo mortgage. At least he is consistent about that (toady is the 15th of the month.) I replied to both texts saying thank you. Then I asked a question “why would I start laughing about email?” Then told him that I would let him know about the car insurance when I get the bill.

I decided to experiment, asking him a question to see if he would answer it. And he did! Here is his response “Because I couldn’t figure out how to send an email from my computer. Typical [censored] me”

Ha, is this a low self-esteem remark or just complaining? I sent the text back “Oh no, give yourself some credit. It worked before, right”. I thought I could test if he would engage in the conversation. Maybe it was not the best validation or response, IDK. I didn’t get anything back. Oh well… This was just an experiment.

When I got home I checked my e-mails that I had 2 e-mails from him. First one from a couple of days ago (which I assume didn’t go because he could not sent e-mails, LOL.) And the second one from today, telling to disregard his first e-mail, and that our mutual (female) friend was able to fix his computer and that he was able to send the company file. Also, asking me to let him know what else he might need to do.

From all of this:
- He still wants to maintain the joint car insurance (BTW, I was totally prepared for him to split on this)
- He wants to maintain the joint company business
- He complained about his inability to send an e-mail
- He mentioned our mutual friend
- He was quite pleasant in all his communication (texts and e-mails), addressing me by name

What do I make out of it? Nothing… I’m just experimenting… And I actually starting to have some fun with it… Is it weird?

Oh, and I’ve scheduled a consultation with the D attorney on Friday thru work benefits. It is a free 30 min consultation. I have a few questions I need answers for before I decide whether I need to file for D or separation, or still wait and not file. All I want is to separate my finances and make sure the money I put aside in savings through work are not going to be divided in the future. I want to know my options. I still want H to file for D and have ball in his court on this. But, I’m not discounting the possibility to filing on my own. Any suggestions what I need to ask?

I might have some typos and grammatical error here, but I’m not reviewing my post… Sorry… Had a happy hour with my coworkers tonight, and a couple of glasses of wine…