I don't really know what to tell you. He has always been a hot head, but has made considerable improvement in controlling it in the almost 7 years we've been together. it doesn't usually come out of nowhere, but I do have to be careful in what I do and say as not to provoke him. If he's been drinking it can be especially bad. But again, it is not that he is always angry. But if I say or do something that pushes him over the edge...it can get out of hand. Never physical of course.
It's great that he's making considerable improvements controlling his anger. But there's a difference in between pushing buttons and provoking his temper and having to watch what you say because it might trigger him. I'm hoping it's the former, and not the later that you're referencing. Regardless of if you say or do something that pushes him over the edge, he has a CHOICE in how he chooses to respond. Anger, to the point of getting out of hand is unacceptable. He has to figure that out, because you should not have to worry about triggering his behavior.
This isn't something to sweep under the rug. It will be something that will need to be addressed and take a lot of hard work from both of you.
M:32,H 32 T:10, M5 BD/H Move Out: 9/2014 - extreme anger H Mental Illness Diagnosis: 4/15 Served D Papers: 10/15 Divorced: 11/15
