I found great support here with you guys. I can't appreciate enough.
NEWS: I actually noticed when I snooped my wife's phone it backed up her whole phone on my computer.
So I actually went through the text of her and her best friend. She shared everything with her. And I just found out my W is completely MADLY in love with OM. It sounds very very serious. I'm didn't tell her or whatsoever. I am glad I know exactly everything now and I can use that information to my advantage. I'm very ver very hurt right now, but I'm not going to overreact.
What should I do with this information??? She 100% clearly is in love with him and wants to divorce me ASAP to be with him. They didn't get physical yet for sure.
You do not reveal information until you have collected plenty of it. I'd also put a VAR ( voice activated recorder ) in her car.
Get at least 3 weeks of solid intel, better yet 2 months. The voice stuff will take a week or two and you will have been revealed way more than you can bear to listen to. They do most of their cheating talk in the car.
If she didn't get physical and is ready to throw away what she has with you, when they get physical and oxytocin kicks in you will be toast for sure.
You didn't do anything wrong, $hit happens. You can find out information about the OM. Perhaps he's married, a player, cheats on women, has a woman. Something...
I'd be copying those backups or logs somewhere else.
