Mozza, I just want to add that of course I am no magician and I can't see the future but I do think there is a good chance of reconciliation between you and your W. I get why this announcement of D would upset you of course! But honestly I am not at all surprised.
There were a few old success stories I was reading last month thanks to your compilation. They helped me a lot!!! thank you!
In several of the ones I was reading, the WAS asked for D and started moving the process forward (later on after BD and S). Somewhere in the process it was halted by the WAS. And when they reconciled it seemed that the reason the WAS filed or requested divorce at that time was because they were at the crossroads. They wanted to move on with their life but suddenly realized they were actually married. (even though in many cases they had already cheated and moved out) They wanted to cut that tie so that they would not feel guilty anymore about dating or doing whatever they wanted. Once the D process was begun and the LBS seemed to be going along with it, the WAS suddenly wanted to stop it.
Look, this clown your W is moving in with, he sounds like a flash in the pan. No way this is going to work out! He was your W's ticket to get out of the marriage and go have a fun new life that she believed will be perfect. Everyone knows living with a new person is not a bed of roses. You are lucky they are living together. His faults will have their chance to shine. Either he will be a slob or a neat freak. Maybe he will be cranky in the morning. Maybe he will forget to buy milk. Who knows what will happen, but they will quickly have something to fight about I'll bet.
What 25years wrote the other day was so powerful. When does the WAW start to doubt her decision... work on being the most amazing Mozza you can so that when she doubts she sees you as amazing.
