You seem to be doing very well. Always good when our IC's see our progress.

"He encouraged me to continue to focus on the process and not the outcome"

I love this, one of the podcasts I've been listening to from another marriage saving site said that exact thing as well.

As far as the letter goes I think the answer would be no generally. Maybe a vet could chime in here, they may suggest you post the letter in order to offer better guidance. Is there a reason you want to give her the letter?

Me-44 (45)
H- 50 (51)
M-'96

S-18(20)D-15(17)D-12(14)

BD Feb 2014 (he works overseas)
home Oct(sep rooms)
(EAs possible Pa's unconfirmed)
insists wants D through July 2015
no more talk of D since