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I empathize with her and tell her I understand and she has a lot going on but I have faith in her that she can do well in XYZ.


The bolded above usually earned me some spew from stbxw, along the lines of:

- I'm not her
- I don't have her history
- I couldn't possibly understand fully because of the above
- and I have that "Y" chromosome

And she was right.

She "heard" it as patronizing. Parental.

And she was right.

Something to noodle over... smile

In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus

Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm