OK, I guess I should reply. Here is the most DB reply I can come up with, completely detached of how I feel.

(15 minutes later)

"OK. I'll have to check a few things first."

Really, I can't think of anything. It's amazing how I lose my means when it comes to my sitch. I'm really not detached. I tried writing it for someone else, but I can't. Id like the email to look less curt than this. I just don't want to come across as pissed or super-controlled.

Here's the full translation of her email, in case it can help.

"Hi,

There's something I'd like to talk to you about. Do you have an idea when you'd want to start looking at the paperwork for the divorce? I read somewhere that it won't be official until October 1, 2015 (one year after we lived separately, but we can submit the papers ahead of time). I'd rather talk about all of this in person, it's less cold and hard. This being said, I can respect your desire not to meet -- at first. And if you prefer to postpone the discussion, I'll understand.

I don't have a lawyer. I looked around and at $$$, I thought we could perhaps start by talking about it (there are ways to do it without talking to a lawyer, if the parents get along relatively well). This being said, I wouldn't want to do the whole process by email and text (re: [friends], although I don't care what others have done).

Well. There. I put the topic on the table. There's no good way to do it, especially not by email.

Thanks,
W"

Inspiration, anyone?

M39 D6 D3 (at S)
S 2014-09
D 2016-09

"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.