In thinking about last weekend I remembered something else she said while we were talking after the blow up. While sigging in the living room she said "you know If my mother were alive today I can just hear what she would say. She would say, C, you can't have your cake and eat it too."
In thinking back on that it seems that she knows that she is trying to hold onto me for the fun things we did together but let go of me some so she can do things with OG too. It is time for her to make up her mind about which way she wants it. There is pleanty of things in her house to remind her of me and what we had. I will just have to let those items do their work and be patient.
I did have a busy weekend. Went to zoo with a new friend on Saturday, a really nice lady, I discussed a merger of my firm with my attorney friend on Sunday during lunch and then later took another new friend to dinner Sunday evening.
So, your ex is a self confessed cake eater??? That, at least, is a step. She knows she is going to have to choose one day soon, let's hope she makes the right choice!
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
I think quite a few of our partners like to cake-eat, lol. May not be any ML, could just mean having two R with opposite sex.
You are changing that by doing what you are doing. Let C lead the dance! I think once she finds out you may be slipping through her fingers, she just might change her mind and be a one cake gal, LOL!
Glad you are keeping busy, it's the only way to go! I just put a new faucet in the kitchen, I'm very proud of myself! No mountain is too high to climb, sometimes we have to find another way up instead!
Glad you feel great! Sometimes I wish I had no contact with my H. It's getting so that I get depressed when I do. Just me having a bad day, give me a couple hrs to get back on track!
first a little background. As most of you know C does my payroll - or should I say that she had her previous employee (the one that she had to fire) did the checks. C and I went together and bought a payroll software program that did all the bells and whistles and employee did her checks and my checks. Since employee was fired C now has her bookkeeper come in and do the checks for her business and the bookkeeper has started doing my payroll checks as well. The bookkeeper does payroll checks and other bookkeeping for various other businesses but mine (and C's) is the only one she does from C's home office.
Well I ran out of IRS deposit forms (needed to pay my monthly withholding for my employees) and Bookkeeper just made photo copies. Well the bank would not take the photo copies so I did an IM to C today to ask her to have Bookkeeper get me some new original deposit forms.
I seem to have hit the timing just right as bookkeeper had just walked in so I started IMing her w/ info. In a few minutes bookkeeper IMed me back about something else and rather than just doing IM I gave her a call.
Background on Bookkeeper - C's very close friend and they talk alot. Bookkeeper told me that C had gone to post office and started IMing about the IRS stuff. And I told Bookkeeper about my new secretary (that has not been to work since Monday w/o a call and I was telling her details about secretary's last check and her last day there) Anyway, while talking with Bookkeeper she said that she heard some very good things about me from one of her other clients, my flight school. bookkeeper said that the school had very good things to say about me and thought alot of me. I said I wish some other people thought alot of me too. to which bookkeeper responded, "oh, you'd be suprised what other people think about you.
We both knew we were talking about C and I said "I don't know about that - I don't think it is going well" Bookkeeper said "well you just have to live day to day"
I responded that I can not live like that and that I need long term goals and not just to only hope to get through each day, and that I felt that I needed to move on with my goal and that I was getting on with my life" She really did not respond to that. We then chit chatted some more about my payroll and IRS stuff.
Anyway - that info is just food for thought and any comments would be appreciated.
PS - no body even think about leaving the BB - everybody here needs every other body here. OK
I think that C must still talk about you in a very positive way from what the bookkeeper said today.
I would think you could leave the door open without putting your life on hold.
Doesn't mean you are going to get serious with anyone, just make some new friends and enjoy some outings. Spring is coming and it is a wonderful time of year!
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
It's up to you, but, i think you should not close the door on the R with C!
I'd say that those "hints" from bookeeper area sign. Like I told someone else this morning; It's not over even when the fat lady sings" So hit the darn lady with a 2 x 4 if you have to or tell her to shut up, LMAO!
Give C space and time, give her a chance to miss you. Time is on your side. I think you should go back through some of your threads; there were a lot of baby steps.
