Another valuable gem my DB coach gave me was to "Contrast the world your WAS is creating (whatever that is) with the fulfilling life you are creating for yourself and your children."
In my case, that meant H's life in Alaska, which I KNOW was dark and cold
(no matter what else was going on,), with a warm (figuratively and literally) sunny loving, FUN home life here.
There was quite a contrast. But it took time for h to notice it, despite it looking dramatically different and obviously better, to me.
So give your w something to miss. Not a sad miserable stbx, but a loving FAMILY & home life...AND a great catch (i.e. you)
and children who love her deeply. If her eyes are open (and they will be, in time)
then how can OW ever really compete?
She can't compete, ( not once the fog has lifted, anyhow.)
Make sense?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
