I'm going to give him the opp to actually be a dad.
IMO, you do this ^^^ for the kids. Allow them to form their own opinion about DAD. Your job is to stay out of that R. You can be their to listen and validate the kids…but they need to learn who dad really is. The definition of DAD needs to be determined by the kids – not you. Give them that time and space to figure that out.
Quote:
I want to be wanted and totally in control as to how that pans out.
Are we ever really in total control? IMO, NOPE – NEVER. It is impossible to control EVERYTHING.
Quote:
I'm not even afraid to love or open up again. I just don't feel like doing it. I'm sure that will change one day.
For some reason….I do not believe you are not afraid to love or open up again. I think you are. The bigger issue continues to be control, which IMO, is rooted in FEAR.
I also think that at the end of the day….you are really lonely. Yes you have the kids, and yeah you have a job but aside from that…..something is missing.
IMO, the only way to figure out what is missing is to experiment until you find something that works for you.
I also believe that you still are reeling from what I would say are the life lessons you have been TAUGHT i.e. you still see yourself the way you were TAUGHT to see yourself.
GB – change takes TIME…….. you cannot rush this……..
One day…one step at a time….
Maybe…another thing to consider is….are you spending too much f*cking time in YOUR head. Are you trying to answer every question about yourself RIGHT NOW. Relax….enjoy life a little. Stop worrying so much.
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
