I was definitely blindsided by all of this and I do know that she is way ahead in terms of where she is emotionally with this.
Yes, the are way ahead of us on detaching from the R, but we can use this time to work on ourselves and learn better R skills while they are chasing whatever it is they are looking for (in the wrong place, externally, rather than internally).
Down the road, we will be light years ahead of them in personal growth and R skills, and they will have to catch up with us if they want back in. If they don't, then we are primed for an even better new R with someone new.
As Cadet says: use the gift of time wisely
Hang in there!!
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
