I think my wife is crazy confused, i think she's trying to have cake and eat it too which is seriously devilish, stupid

But poster above i am in no way abusive have never thought or tried to harm my wife in any way it was just like a snapped episode, i just couldn't recognize the woman that she was at the time,like a little girl even currently with some statements that she make it seemed like a teenager in the minD a rebellious teenager, that snaps when somebody tries to correct her or restrain her for her own safety, I love my wife I just don't know if she's my wife anymore in her brain and I'm worth more then this crap I've never done anything to try to hurt her deliberatelylike she does me believing everything that this coward fat guy says and he lied to her from the very beginning according to her but yet still you can trust him over me your husbandit's like some screws came loose and I don't know how to tighten them all I can do is let go and let God and that's difficult in itself because us men always try to fix things that's how God created us now you're saying that I have to just sit and wait that's difficult I'm vulnerable I need love reciprocated I'm still faithful and will stay faithful to God first which means I would have to stay faithful to my wife even it when there's times when you want to retaliate or get revenge by playing these mind games far worse then she could ever but yet and still I don't I just hate this crap and that [censored] like I'm not even a man anymore like she's holding me by the cojonesand is controlling me like a puppEt because I'm walking on eggshells,I really need help in my approach she's driving me crazy despite our children ages 14 12 and 7 my little girl is the youngest and this is her role model I can't let that happen