I kinda agree with most of your responses - first, I agree I do not block her from the IM.
On the futon mattress, I will give her some time to contact me first (like through Tuesday) then if no contact I might im her about the payroll checks and say I can pick up the mattress this weekend when I get the checks.
As to the payroll - she is not doing my company accounting. We jointly bought a payroll program that keeps track of deductions and how much is needed to pay the state and IRS. Her bookkeeper just keeps track of my payroll and prints the payroll checks along with the checks to the IRS and state. The rest of my bookkeeping and accounting I do myself. The Jury is still out on if I leave the payroll there or move it - I don't teel that I should jump into anything just yet.
Counselor - Even though the counselor will NOT divulge any direct convo you have with her to C...it will leak out in her talks with C because the counselor has the benefit of knowing EXACTLY where you're coming from. Well yes this is true the same works in reverse and this is why I wanted to go to that counselor. However, if I feel it is not doing any good then I will stop going and likely will not go to another.
I do agree that friendship is a two way street and told her that last Sunday. I told her that she is the one that said she wanted the friendship thing to work but for it to work she had to act like a friend too.
I do like your PS and I am starting to work on that.
