H is running again

[Nettles]

H says his LL is RESPECT and that I do not keep my commitments and get what I want by clawing until he caves.
H says he does not ask for much.

Do you keep your commitments?

H says he does not care that it went down that way, we had an agreement and I broke it.

Sounds like you did. H is a man, not a child. And this was a "manly"-type things.

I tried to validate, but there is so much in his comments and some are back to 2005....which we left behind.

We left behind? Doesn't sound like it was "we".

So in the end he said he would call coach and we would go from there.

I hope H honestly wants to do this and isn't caving. That won't be productive if he is. Just another item for his list if he did.

I know my situation is not as complex in that there is no OM, OW, drugs, violence, ect. But as MWD says some marriages end for lesser things.

Previously, you wrote that H responds "to be happy" when asked what he wants. That doesn't seem to be a lesser thing, but a serious reason to consider D if H feels he can't be happy in the M.

Have you asked H want it means "to be happy"? What does H's life look like for H to be happy?

With the examples you gave in your post, did you respond to H with you 'reasons'?