Shocked by W

[hjoseph]

Nettles,
I need to be more decisive with her. She did not like the fact that I answered a yes/no question with a maybe. I am always seeking a compromise.

Stop lying.I lie about insignificant things. i.e. I would take out the trash the morning of and would say I did it the night prior to save face. She hated that.

Lastly, I resigned my commission so I can be home. She did take well to the constant travelling and taking care of the family on her own. She felt abandoned because I had leave days after she gave birth to our son. She did not have the opportunity to pursue her dreams because she had to sacrifice for me. Since the separation, she has enrolled in grad school and pursuing a MBA. Switched careers and handling her own finances. Her words: "I want to live on my own for a while and do the things I want to do." My 180 is give her space.

These are things she has told me before the separation.

Any principle that I have adopted have been twisted by her. She has made me the villain in all of this. According to what I've seen so far in regards to how I am treated by her family, I am the perpetrator.