Quote: 1. when we do talk again, do I agree to see her and do things with her from time to time and try to maintain the "having fun" relationship. (if I do then she would have to be considerate of my feelings and not intentionally say things that hurt me)
I would set boundaries on this one, you have rights too. I would tell her that OM is not to be talked about, for one example.
2. do I continue to try to see the Kids, even though they are not mine?
Do you want to? So what if they are not biologically yours! If you were apart of their lives and the parents are willing and if YOU want to; see them by all means!
3. Do I continue to try to see the puppy from time to time?
Good question! Are you attached to puppy, or are you using the excuse of seeing puppy in order to see C?
4. do I continue to see her counselor?
Is the counselor helping you? If you feel better after the visit then by all means continue. Do this for you.
5. do I break off all contact move my payroll to somewhere else so she can really miss me?
Would she see this as a negative? Has she asked you to do this?
6. do I block her from seeing me on IM or leave that "door" open just a little by letting her see my activity from day to day?
I understand you are angry with her, but why cut off your nose to spite your face! What is the harm in letting her know you are there? You can go invisible and then she won't know you are there.
7. IS IT OVER?
It's only over if you want it to be!
hugs
Deb
P.S. I think I will agree with T2 on this, maybe C needs to know you ARE moving on and you ARE NOT playing second fiddle. Go ODGA!
